Jon and I haven’t eaten dinner together for a couple of days now. Its one of the downfalls I think, of both of us working from home and for ourselves. When we are both deep in our projects we have a ‘fend for yourself’ type day, where we get up at different times, and eat at our own times throughout the day. Often we do this in separate rooms even; he works downstairs in the living room and I work upstairs in the loft.
Its funny to me, because I’ve always felt that its important for a family to at least eat dinner together. The dinner table for me is just as sacred as the kitchen. Its a communal gathering place for nourishment and for connecting back in. But being what I like to call a ‘single couple’ with no children, we have fallen into the habit of just doing our thing and not always marking a time in the day where we come together. This has especially been amplified by the fact that we no longer have similar diets, being that I can’t have anything with gluten and Jon is a huge wheat based carb guy.
As the new year began a couple of months ago, we both decided to renew our habit of cooking together more often and making it a point to have an actual dinner time. We spend a couple of days a week at Cafe Aroma where we eat together, but usually when we do that we are also working. Do you see a pattern here? So this year I’m intending on bringing back into our lives and our home, the cycle of coming together at dinner time. We don’t always cook together which is fine with me, because for me there is something creatively and soulfully therapeautic about being in that kitchen alone with some yummy music while chopping, stirring and conjuring. But I think its important to recognize that at this time in our lives when its just the two of us, we can actually have date night every night, simply by sitting down at the table together, face to face and eating.
Tonight we will be cooking together and serving up some deliciousness for ourselves and 3 Couch Surfers that we have staying here with us for a couple of days. Jon and I do this well I think, and its one of the things I love doing as a couple. Hosting and feeding people… what could be better then bringing a group of people, who don’t know each other, together and over a wonderfully cooked meal, bond, share stories and be nourished? Call me crazy, but doing this with him always leaves me feeling like he is the sexiest thing on earth. Not sure what thats about, and not sure that this has anything to do with food per se, but in a way it does. Cooking as a couple… the new sexy.
I would love to hear about your dinner culture, especially if you’re in a couple. Please share!